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Valentine’s day is coming, which means fun dates and special evenings with your spouse!
Our society goes all out for Valentine’s Day. Flowers, cards, chocolates, and that’s not even counting the nice dinner you’ll dress up for. February 14th is the magical day to express your love, in fact, it’s one of the most popular days of the year to get engaged!
Now, I’m all for a good date, and I definitely won’t argue with flowers, but sometimes it seems to me that Valentine’s Day is a bit overrated.
We have this one special day to celebrate our sweet and romantic feelings, but what about the rest of the year? Do we take the time to go on dates or write love notes to each other throughout the rest of the year? Do we treat each other just as kindly the rest of the year as we do on Valentine’s day?
I’ll be the first to admit, I definitely do not treat my husband as well as I should. If I’ve learned one thing in only a year and a half of marriage, it’s that I’m a really, really selfish person. I would often rather be taken care of than have to actually be responsible and run a house like an adult.
And yet, on Valentine’s day, it’s easy to be extra nice and do extra things…because it’s Valentine’s day, and you’re supposed to be extra nice and romantic, right?
Let’s not fall for the idea that romance is only for certain times of the year. Instead, let’s commit to loving our husbands all throughout the year and in many ways!
We shouldn’t feel pressure to only show love through big extravagant ways. Sometimes it’s the little things that mean the most. The little everyday things of marriage are often the ones we’ll remember years down the road, ask any couple that’s been married over 25 years what they remember the most-I can guarantee it won’t be that expensive dinner!
This list of 7 little ways you can love your husband has a little bit of something for everyone. If something doesn’t quite fit you as a couple, change it up! Be creative, there are countless ways you can love your husband!
1. Write love notes
What says “I love you” like a sweet little note you wrote just because? It doesn’t have to be a full-fledged passionate love letter (although that’s great too!), but it can even be as small as a post it note. You can leave it on his dresser or slip it in his bag before he goes to work, anywhere he’ll be sure to see it.
2. Make a nice big breakfast
We’ve all heard that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, and guess what? It’s kind of true! Guys love food, so make a big breakfast one day (make sure you include bacon!) and surprise your husband. Bonus: You get to enjoy a great breakfast together!
3. Watch sports or and action movie
Sometimes it can be hard to understand what’s so great about watching a car chase. But cuddling on the couch while watching a movie is a nice way to relax and show that you’re interested in understanding what your husband likes. Let your husband pick a movie for you two to watch, and maybe you can even throw some homemade popcorn in the deal! Besides, if you watch an action flick, maybe you can get him to watch You’ve Got Mail next time!
4. Ask good questions about his workday
I’m sure this has happened before:
“How was work?” “Good.” End of conversation.
Usually we let things go there, but to really show your husband that you love him and care about what he does at work, try asking more specific questions about his day. Did he have any meetings? Are there any special projects he’s working on? Your husband may not want to talk about it that much, and that’s fine, but at least he’ll know that you’re interested in what he does.
5. Pack his lunch
Again, guys like food. And while men are completely capable of packing their own lunches, I’ve found that my husband really appreciates when I put his together and he doesn’t have to worry about it. Besides, if you pack his lunch, then it’s easy to throw in a love note!
6. Let him do man stuff once in awhile
Let’s be honest, ladies. We don’t really understand guys sometimes. Their obsession with fire and blowing things up, why they feel the need to try out various adventurous and risky things, it just doesn’t make sense sometimes!
Which is why they need guy time. Time to go and be men and do manly things! Just like we would all shrivel up and die if we didn’t go on 3 hour coffee dates to talk about EVERYTHING with our friends, guys need time with other guys too.
7. Hug, kiss, etc….LOTS!
Men like lots of touch, women like being held, it’s not rocket science, friends! Go be all mushy with your husband, it’s fun! A little flirting with your husband is always a good thing. 🙂
As you can see, there are tons of ways that you can love your husband no matter what time of year it is! Let’s strive to show love to our husbands well this year and the next 50 to come.
Every couple is different. What ways do you show love to your husband?